In the aftermath of a divorce, the idea of doing anything with your former wife, including parenting, can be stressful and intimidating. However, for the sake of your children, it is important to behave amicably and work together. After all, the fact that your marriage didn’t work out doesn’t mean you don’t still both want the very best for the children you brought into the world together. To co-parent, you must put aside any resentments and focus on this shared goal. The following co-parenting tips can help:
- Be a team.
When you and your ex present a united front on parenting matters, it gives your child a sense of security. It is hurtful for children to even sense animosity between their parents, let alone witness it. If you are vocally resentful of your ex around your child, call them names, or criticize them, it undermines their ability to parent effectively. Keep your venting between you and your adult friends, and leave your child out of it. Mom and dad should be a team in their children’s eyes, regardless of a divorce.
This goes right along with being a team. If you’re going to present a united front to your children, you and your ex need to be on the same page. Have open channels for kid-related conversation. Make sure you are clear with one another on things like schedules, rules, and discipline.
3. Make big decisions together.
Don’t leave your former spouse out of the loop on any important decisions regarding your child. This is especially important with medical decisions and educational decisions. You and your ex need to discuss these matters and try to make a decision together. Even married parents don’t agree on every big decision, so understand that it may be necessary to compromise sometimes.
You don’t have to love your ex, or even like them, but in order to co-parent successfully, you need to at least respect them as your child’s other parents. Respect their opinions, respect what is important to them, and respect their right to play a role in your child’s life. A little respect goes a long way, and it makes life post-divorce easier for everyone involved.
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